Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Babyloss / Soap Opera / My Feelings

Last night I was watching my favorite soap " The Young and The Restless " on Soapnet. I'm sorry but I watch Nick Jr all day not complaining Carly just learns so much from that channel and I prolly wouldn't get other things done without it. Lol.

Anyway a couple on there just got married plus found out that she was pregnant. I watched it the other night when she found out she was. The excitment and joy , I could almost feel it. Then Tuesday nite she had cramping , so last nite she found out went to her OB and did the ultrasound only to find out there was no heartbeat. She went home and D & C will happen today on the show. They went home and he asked her if there was anything he could get her. She said just hold me. I know that he was very much excited for this child to but trying not to let his feelings show. Later in the show she asked him if he was ok ??? He said Yes of course. She told him it's ok if you want to cry , be sad , scream , yell. A tear ran down his cheek.

It was so emotional for me and my hubby , he was on the computer in the same room. We looked at each other. It brought back those memories of what we shared when we lost. I know that before I lost I would not have watched that all that close to what they said to each other. One thing my husband said was it's awesome she told him that it was ok to show feelings. It's still hard for me to remember what I said ???? I wonder if he felt like I cared ???? I know it was hard Ridge was almost 6yrs old and he knew I went to the hospital cause something was wrong with the baby. I remember those brown eyes looking at me asking if the baby was ok ????? I remember holding him close and trying to explain it to him but knowing he didn't really understand and I was so lost myself.

Today it's something how I look at something like that. A soap opera and a pregnancy. I will give that show a lot of credit they made sure to bring the husband's grief into it. Not just the wife and the D & C. I know it brings back painful memories but it also is great to see that they are in one sense helping someone that may be going through something like that.


Holly said...

They had Nicole on Days of Our Lives lose her baby. It made me cry!!!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I haven't watched that show but I have been a fan of All My Children for as long as it has been on. I remember when I was going through a divorce years ago I found it was really hard to watch because they are always divorcing someone!

Jingle said...

it is only a movie, if everything goes well there, then no drama, boring...hope that you take it easy.

have fun!

stitchndeb said...

That's wonderful they included a real man's reaction! ~Debbie

April said...

I want to give you a hug. Your post had be choked up. I can imagine seeing other's experience a similar loss, you are put right back in that place yourself. I suppose it's moments like those that keep your feelings real.

My hormones have been all over the place. I was giving myself a pity party yesterday because I didn't yet know what Jaelyn's clicking hip would turn out to be. Then I watched a mother on The Biggest Loser tell her story of rocking her 2 year old boy in the hospital while he passed away from cancer. I cried harder - for her story, for her loss, for the silly feelings I had of possibly dealing with a harness when the reality was - my baby was still in my arms.

I am sorry that your heart is heavy today. Hugs, Caroline!

That corgi :) said...

it is good that the writers took both the husband's and wife's feelings about a baby loss into consideration when they wrote those scenes. it does show a bit of compassion on their part I do believe


Sarita Boyette said...

I think it is a good thing that the show modelled the fact that men have emotions about child loss, too. My husband went through his moments, and I tried to help him (while grieving myself). When you have lost a child, you are more attuned to things like this on tv and in books.
Loved little Carly's pictures yesterday. She is just a real sweetheart! xoxoxo

Henninger Family said...

My mom watches that show everyday. When I go feed Heidi I get to catch up on it at lunchtime :)

You know, I can't remember what I said to John either...I remember apologizing and him telling me it wasn't my fault...but I can't remember after that.

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