In the book " In Faithfulness. He Afflicted Me " We are on Chapter 3 & Lynnette talks about the days after losing her son & than later another pregnancy.
Have you ever been at a loss for words when trying to comfort another ? If you have endured a loss in what ways have people shown you that they care ? How have you shown others you care ?
Yes many times I have been at a loss for words. I love to help people even people I don't know that well or maybe have never met. At the same time I am afraid of offending them because everyone handles grief differently. I know I shouldn't feel like that but even though I may not have had something like what they are going thru I still try my hardest to be helpful & find the right thing to say. I can remember one time just like it was yesterday, a friend of mine her daughter was accidently ran over by her school bus because her daughter dropped a paper & went back to pick it up. I seen her little girl just 2 days before & she was only in first grade. It was tough because at the time I had no children of my own but I didn't know exactly how she felt but I tried so hard to be there for her if she felt like talking or needed anything. If I can't find the right words I just pray for them alot & try to be there in support. I feel that means alot to a person.
Well I can remember when I had my first miscarriage & I went back to work. Most everyone knew & they tried to make me smile & most of them were not sure what to say but told me they were sorry about my loss. Then of course there were some that offended me by saying you already have kids & things will be ok. I can remember it seemed like for 2 wks I never was by myself to much at work, someone was always there & it helped take my mind off of things. Most of them prayed or gave me a card or brought me stuff at my lunchtime. I remember when I lost my Dad how alot of the men that worked with my Dad came to calling hours as a group & that was neat.
Again I just try to be there for that person & even if it's just a prayer or a card. Just having support means so much.
What fears do you have that you feel you should give to God ?
Well this past pregnancy was hard for me after having 2 miscarriages in a row & knowing how old I was to have a healthy baby was scarey. I went thru a difficult time, I had extra ultrasounds & my docter had first talked that since I declined all the extra tests that I was at a high risk. My husband & I had decided since the day I took my home pregnancy test that whatever happened , happened & we put our faith in the Lord. My fears now are just that some of the things that my older children went though when I was with there father not bother them as they get older. And if for some reason I was to be pregnant again just to have a healthy baby. I used to be afraid to die but I just trust in the Lord & can't wait to see the people I love that are waiting for me.
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Hi, I’m just hopping around. I have enjoyed your blog. Thanks for sharing.
My pastor talked about this just Sunday. The message was about comforting others.
He said most people really don't want to hear what you have to say during times of suffering & loss,because you can't really say anything that will take the pain away. They mostly just want you to listen with open ears and a heart. He said if you go to talk to someone who is hurting and you don't know what to say. simply hugs them and say, "I'm sorry" or "If I can do anything for you just let me know". These words can mean so much to a heavy hearted person. They just want to feel like someone cares.
For me, just knowing a person is thinking or praying for me makes me feel good. Even after enduring a loss, I still don't have all the right words for everyone. I just pray I get it right!
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